Most of us, when facing conflict, focus on the change necessary in the other so that WE can finally be happy. We tie our peace of mind to an outcome we cannot control, and try to force our loved ones to fit into the mould of our imaginative ideal partner.

The desire for a romantic partner is a natural part of life. Yet, beneath this longing lies a story about our relationship with ourselves.

"Consistency" is not about “trying” to regularly fit in someone else’s expectations. Consistency means we are being ourselves from the start in order to avoid disillusionment and disappointment once our real nature comes out.

Ajahn Brahm wrote “Pen” on the piece of paper, and thought right after… “I could also ask for better paper”